An Open Letter to the Religious Right: The Gay Marriage War is Over – And You Lost

gaymarriageDear Pat Robertson, Rick Santorum, Tony Perkins and anybody else who still opposes equal rights, the following letter is written to you by a heterosexual who is really just massively tired of your shit.

With Hawaii becoming the 15th state to legalize gay marriage, and Illinois right behind them, we are now about 1/3rd of the way to marriage equality here in the United States. Ten years ago, when that glowing beacon of liberalism called Massachusetts was the first to extend the right to get married and be miserable together to all adults regardless of gender, there was some grumbling and gnashing of teeth on your part. It took another 5 years before Connecticut joined the rest of modern society when their Supreme Court also decided that the objections of the religious right and cliched statements about God making “Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve” didn’t outweigh the right to equality under the law.

After that, we’ve had a small flood of states making the same judgements despite your outcries of Sodom and Gomorrah and other cherry-picked Old Testament verses that were surrounded by instructions against eating shellfish, shaving or wearing clothing with more than one type of fiber.

Sure, you can hang on to the Deep South and hole up in the last holdout of “godliness” which is that bastion of poverty and illiteracy social conservatism that comprises Louisiana, Mississippi and Alabama as well as the hollers of the Appalachian Mountains stretching up into Virginia. However, you’re fighting a losing battle. It’s not only a losing battle, but it is a doomed one.

A decade before I was born, Hurricane Camille hit my home state of Virginia. It was a storm that slammed into the Gulf of Mexico, but nobody thought much of it in the Commonwealth. At first, it was just a light rain hitting the window panes of churches and homes on a warm August evening in Nelson County, but it quickly became a deluge that literally ripped away the sides of mountains, leaving scars there that you can still see to this day.

What is the parallel between this and your opposition to marriage equality? Like a hurricane, the eventuality of complete marriage equality across the civilized world (as well as Mississippi) is bearing down upon you. You can pack up and move on to the next issue (no, not abortion), or you can stay and be washed down the river of irrelevance. That’s your choice. I’d just ask you to remember how silly your parents or grandparents sound now at family gatherings or in randomly forwarded emails when they complain about desegregation or interracial marriage. It really is the same thing.


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