Republican Senate Candidate Blames Women for Divorce Even When Males Were Unfaithful

Det-BowersSure, I don’t understand why tens of millions of Americans vote for Republicans, but what I really don’t understand is how they get any support from millions of women voters.  Whether it’s opposing legislation which would require that women receive equal pay for doing the same job as a man, or their constant attacks on women’s health rights, can any woman really think of a piece of legislation the Republican party has supported that was aimed at helping women?

Then there are comments like those made by South Carolina Senate Candidate Det Bowers, who once said that women are usually to blame when a marriage ends in divorce.  Not only that, he claims that it’s “abominable idolatry” for women to love their children more than their husbands.  

Bowers, who is a pastor, said during a sermon:

“And yet, I find that in about 95 percent of broken marriages, though the husband’s the one that ran out on his wife, the wife loves her children more than she does her husband. That is an abominable idolatry.

Do you hear me ladies?  It is an abominable idolatry to love your children more than you love your husband, and it will ruin your marriage.  And yet you blame it on him because he ran off with some other woman!  He did run off with some other woman, and you packed his bags.  All of his emotional bags, you packed for him.  Is that true in every case?  No, but it’s true in the vast preponderance of them.

You just ran him off.  You paid more attention to your children than you did to him.  ‘Oh, he doesn’t need me?’  He needs you more than they do.  He chose you, they didn’t.  An abominable idolatry.”

Yes, that’s a male Republican Senate candidate saying that women are often the reason why men cheat because they love their children more than they do their husbands, and that women should love their husbands more than their children because he chose them, whereas their children didn’t.

Normally I would present some kind of elaborate summary pointing out the absolute ignorance of comments like these, but they’re so ignorant that I’ll just let them speak for themselves.

And while Bowers might be someone who lies on the more radically right side of the Republican party, his comments cannot simply be dismissed as “fringe” when the GOP continues to try to push this country toward some form of theocratic rule.

A rule where beliefs like those of Det Bowers would create law, even if they completely contradict our Constitution.

Allen Clifton

Allen Clifton is a native Texan who now lives in the Austin area. He has a degree in Political Science from Sam Houston State University. Allen is a co-founder of Forward Progressives and creator of the popular Right Off A Cliff column and Facebook page. Be sure to follow Allen on Twitter and Facebook, and subscribe to his channel on YouTube as well.


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  • Susan

    Wow. So many republican men, so few brains…

  • Bookwench

    I don’t even know what to say to this….is this the Onion? Surely he can’t be serious

    • Brooke Michelle

      He is serious. But don’t call him Shirley.

      • Dave B

        He probably pays a male prostitute to call him Shirley.

      • Bookwench

        Perfect response:-)

  • Debbie


  • Jim Bean

    Relax. The decline in marriage rates and the increase in the number of children living in poverty stricken single-parent households is proof positive that the Left has been victorious in fending off the GOP’s reluctance to let go of old, archaic, backward, virtues.

    • Pipercat

      Like indentured servitude…

      • Jim Bean

        The GOP led the way on that, I’m afraid.

      • Mister

        Not the GOP that exists today, and you well know it.

      • marecek21

        No, they led the way on slavery. They are now leading us BACK into indentured servitude.

    • Todd Heath

      Evangelical and fundamentalist Christians marry younger, are less educated, and have much higher divorce rates. They also tend to vote GOP. The more liberal parts of the country are better educated, marry later, and have a much lower divorce rate. The facts don’t support your hypothesis that liberals are to blame.

      • Beverly Ann Nelms

        Hello. Yellow dog democrat bleeding heart liberal who is also a Christian here. Pleased to meet You.

    • robingee

      Divorce leads to poverty-stricken single parent households which is a direct result of the Left not abiding by the GOP’s family values.

      Got it.

      And the “decline in marriage rates” means what? What “rate?” People are not getting married? So what?

  • marecek21

    I’m sorry, but I don’t even see the biblical basis for this drivel. This is just a stupid man who has gotten into a position of authority and is abusing it to force his attitudes upon people.

    • robingee

      His basis is just that he’s a dickhead I guess.

    • meatwad_SSuppet

      His simpleton mind thinking that the women always obeys her man.

  • Sandy Greer

    Listening to that made my Creep Alert go off. But seriously, folks – here is another Republican doesn’t know his Bible. There’s a verse on marriage I’ve always found interesting:

    Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. ~Ephesians 5:33

    A man must love his wife. But she must reverence (respect) him. It doesn’t say she has to love him; she has to RESPECT him.

    A woman wants to be loved, above all. While a man needs his respect.

    ^^^Either one of those is missing – the marriage is dead in the water. Better for BOTH parties they bite the bullet and pull the plug – than continue to live a lie.

    • Hoode

      THats very true…..BUT he needs to be capable;e of BEING respected. Not some spoiled little boy demanding sex cuz he has a woodie

  • hermanprovi

    Reuglycan women love those guys! Why else would they vote for them!

  • Hoode

    THis is so far off base it is LUDICROUS KIDS require constant care for the most part. The Daddy unless he is s selfish little puppy KNOWS this, Once you strip the “women are lesser being” and “women are there to serve their man” language out…..what you are left with is Men are insecure little puppies that require constant reassurance and sex. LOTS of sex cuz of COURSE Men have MUCH stronger sex drives. BULLCRAP!! A Woman after taking care of 2 or 3 children for 12-15 hours a day is EXHAUSTED and don’t have much time to think much about sex they want a NAP.
    A Man CHEATS because he has bought into the myth they need sex more than women and our society allows him to “sow his wild oats”. Men if you want more attention from your woman then get more involved in your children’s lives and do your share of helping around the house so Mom has enough energy to service you. Don’t go play golf while yer wife is slaving her butt off and expect to get sex when you get home. THis “MAN” has no clue…..he is a white haired Boy who is clueless.

    • Sue Roediger

      seriously ! a man who wants some lovin’……just needs to help clean up the kitchen after dinner, take out the trash (without being asked), pour some wine and actually talk with (not to) his wife……that’s real sexy right there…………….
      if you wait in front of the TV the whole time —- she will be exhausted and pissed.

  • Eg Kbbs

    SC. Also looking at his web page, he is apparently the best for the job because his family lived in SC before the American Revolution. (Oddly, no mention of which side he was on during the War of Northern Aggression).

    The South Park parody seems relatively sane – I’m thinking of the episode that tried to discover why rich men had sex on the outside.

  • Tandi Graff

    This is what keeps the human race alive… If we didn’t live our children over our husbands the Diane Downs of the world would be the norm… F***ing idiot…

  • labman57

    Gotta love those “traditional family values”.

  • Adam Steed

    People and their Unscientific based beliefs. There are marriages where spouses can run each other off, but to solely blame women for 95%? That’s idiotic. I do remember my mother saying to me and my brother though. That by her and my dad caring for each other, the love they have comes to me and him, so we’ll know what to be like should we choose marriage. All family members are loved equally, but children get more focus because we cannot defend ourselves yet. My dad said the same, I agree with them. Love each other, and the children will automatically get the benefits.