Normally I wouldn’t write about a story like the one I ran across concerning a 15-year-old female in Montreal, Quebec who was sent home from school for refusing to change out of her jean shorts that weren’t in compliance with the school’s dress code.
But the people defending this girl stunned me.
The old “short rule” for school is something I even dealt with when I was in school. It’s something my sister, who’s a teacher, says is a part of her district’s dress code. I’m willing to bet it’s something that goes back to the days when my parents were in school.
By “short rule” I mean when your shorts are not supposed to be any shorter than where your fingertips touch your legs when you’re standing up with your arms hanging at your sides. I even remember a slightly different rule one year where shorts couldn’t be more than 2 inches above your knee. Are these perfect rules? Of course not. But they’re essentially harmless ways to keep students from wearing inappropriately revealing clothing to school.
But what this 15-year-old in Montreal did was create a giant stir about “shaming women” and “teaching boys that women aren’t sex objects” all because she got sent home for violating the school’s dress code. And wouldn’t you know it, a lot of people are standing behind her.
This isn’t about “shaming women.” It’s about a 15-year-old girl who violated the school’s dress code and she simply didn’t want to follow the rules. So what if they made her stand up in class to see if her shorts were long enough, then informed her that she needed to change? Oh the horrors she must have experienced!
On a bit of a side note, can we get over this notion that any form of public reprimand is “shaming”? A parent spanks their kid in public and suddenly “they’re shaming and abusing their child!” Oh be quiet.
Do some public reprimands need to be addressed? Of course. But this girl trying to act like she was singled out and targeted because she broke the dress code is a bit absurd. She should have been well aware of what the dress code was, she knowingly violated it, and she paid the consequences for her actions.
To me, that’s a great lesson learned.
Instead, what this girl tried to do was make this about “fixing boys’ behavior” (of seeing women as sexual objects) instead of what it is really about and that is schools having an established dress code to maintain a slightly more “professional” level of attire to be worn by students. Not only that, adhering to some kind of dress code teaches a small lesson that in the real world, you’re not allowed to wear whatever you want when you go to work.
This quote by this girl when she was asked about the dress code just about sums up her immaturity, “I was in violation for showing my legs. And that, point blank, is a problem for me.”
Oh, no! By all means, let’s change the rules because she has a problem with the dress code.
This is nothing more than a 15-year-old girl who violated the dress code, doesn’t think she needs to follow the rules and she’s trying to turn it into a “boys are the problem” argument, which is just silly.
But we also shouldn’t ignore that the basis for her “argument” is essentially that males shouldn’t be sexually attracted to females. Or I guess we should also ignore that short shorts on women are actually derived from styles women wear to show off skin – often to attract men.
Or have we reached a level with the “PC police” where it’s wrong for males to even be sexually attracted to females anymore?
But again, this isn’t about boys and girls. It’s about requiring students to adhere to a certain standard of dress code while at school.
My problem isn’t really with her, she’s 15. It’s not exactly “breaking news” for a teenage girl to not want to follow rules. It’s with the adults I’ve seen in the comment section of a couple of the articles I’ve read about this defending her.
The dress code isn’t unreasonable and it pertains to everybody. She wasn’t at a club, the beach, her house or the mall – she was at school. Are some school dress codes ridiculous? Yes. But I really don’t think it’s unreasonable to tell students that some shorts are too short. Especially when the “short rule” seems fairly standard in most schools.
Adults condoning her immaturity are simply encouraging this growing trend where kids are learning that if they whine enough, they’ll get their way.
And that’s honestly what all of this breaks down to – immaturity. It’s a teenage girl who doesn’t think she has to follow the rules that she thinks are unfair, and unfortunately she’s found quite a few adults who seem to want to encourage this type of petulant behavior.