Following the recent news that Hope Solo was arrested (and is being held without bond) for two charges of domestic violence after allegedly assaulting her sister and 17-year-old nephew, I can’t help but ask, “Where’s all the outrage?”
If this had been a male athlete who assaulted his sister and a minor, people would be up in arms. Many women’s groups would be blanketing their websites with stories about how this is just more of the same culture of violence against women.
Yet, upon writing this, when I go to the National Organization for Women website – there’s no mention of Hope Solo’s violence against her sister and juvenile nephew. There are plenty of articles to be found pertaining to male violence against women, but none about Solo’s attack on her sister and nephew.
If you go to the comment sections about this story on various websites you get a lot of people actually defending her. People saying such things like, “You don’t know what she’s been through” or “It’s just a sibling spat.”
Then there’s the stupid sexist comments by men making a complete joke out of this, which is also part of the problem.
But this wasn’t just a “sibling spat.” These are grown adults, not children squabbling. And she didn’t just allegedly assault her sister, she allegedly assaulted her minor nephew as well.
According to reports from witnesses, she wouldn’t stop “hitting people” and was clearly the aggressor and instigator. Visible signs of abuse were seen on both her sister and nephew.
Now you can’t tell me if this were a male athlete who did this very same thing that the outrage wouldn’t be louder, especially from women’s groups.
Yet, I don’t see it. At least not very much of it. Definitely not like we would see had this been a male attacking a female and a minor in an uncontrollable rage.
Does that mean domestic violence against women is more acceptable as long as it’s woman on woman violence? Because that’s kind of the attitude I’m getting with the lack of outrage being shown by many of the same groups and people who would be all over this if a male athlete had committed these acts.
Domestic violence is domestic violence – period. It’s something that we need to put an end to whether it’s male on female, male on male, female on female or even female on male.
The fact that many of these people, who would otherwise be enraged had a male athlete committed these acts, are mostly silent on this issue shows a certain level of hypocrisy these activists seem to have.
Now I’m sure some will call me a sexist, or say I’m a “woman hater” or any number of other insults. And that’s fine. I know who I am and how often I’ve staunchly defended women’s rights. I also often call out hypocrisy and, to me, that’s what this is.
Because Hope Solo is a woman, and not a man, the outrage over her alleged acts of domestic violence (which seem pretty severe if she’s being kept without bond and by accounts was striking people uncontrollably) seems mostly absent.
My belief is domestic violence is domestic violence. While it’s more common for men to commit the heinous acts, that doesn’t mean we should ignore, or joke about, instances where women might be guilty of the same type of violence.
And in the case of Hope Solo’s alleged violent assault on her sister and minor nephew, that’s mostly what I’ve seen from some of the same people and groups who would otherwise be publicly condemning these acts had they been committed by a man.